We're on the dog days of the Christmas holiday here - the return to work is due on Monday and Tuesday - and it's showing. There's a lethargy about the house and my jeans are begging me to return to normal eating patterns. So, in a bid to dispell the one and ease the other, I've been spending more time at the allotment.
Only for half an hour at a time as ongoing foot problems means I find it very painful to be stood up for more than 30 minutes at a time. This is both boring and annoying, and I'm missing planned winter walks.
Instead, I go and clear brambles, dig over some more of the covered bed and plant out some broad bean plants, taking a coffee and chocolate break (the mystery over my jeans feeling tight deepens...) before limping back home along the canal path, doing my best Igor impression.
The earth is still waterlogged but the mosses and lichens I find are beautiful. And today I had a cheeky visitor watching me turn over the earth. He was especially pleased with the ants nest I uncovered.
What is it about the sideways head-bob that is so adorable?
Honouring the real, the messy (sometime literally), joy of life on here. Taking it all one small bite at a time. Rarely taking things seriously. Warning: blog contains ramblings of an unspecific nature, cats, allotments and books.
Saturday, January 4, 2020
Monday, December 30, 2019
2019 in books
The other day, the Boyfriend caught me doing something I'd managed to keep hidden for the past 6 months, out of embarrassment really and a desire not to be seen as a complete weirdo.
The conversation went something like this:
"What's that?"
"Umm. Have you fed the cats?"
"Yes, an hour ago. What are you doing?"
"Ahh. What would you like to do today?"
"It's Wednesday, I'm going to work. Seriously, what is that?"
"So it is. I'd better get dressed then!"
"Quit stalling and just tell me what you're up to. Is that your diary?"
Now reader, there is a diary but this was not it and I had no other conversational blind alley to lead him down. It was time to 'fess up to some serious nerdiness.
"No, it's my reading diary."
"Your what??"
"My, umm, reading diary."
And right there and then, I saw my status as the Not-Nerdy one of the relationship disintegrate and a new level of Equal-Nerd was achieved. Which is all to the good, obviously. Yes, it is true, I keep a reading diary and have done for the past 5 years. It wasn't my original idea, but something I read (ironically, I forget where) someone else did to keep track of all the books she had read each year. "That's a good idea," I thought to myself as I realised I'd made it through 2013 and could only remember the handful of books that stuck in my head. "That will stop me standing at the library, book in hand, desperately trying to work out of I've already read it or not." Something that happened on a frequent basis.
So I started one in the January of 2014 and I haven't stopped yet. It reveals things about a person, this reading diary lark, but I'll let you decide what this year's reveals about me...
January: How to be Right by James O'Brien, Take Courage by Samantha Ellis, The Unfortunates by Laurie Graham, Altered States by Anita Brooker, Cash - the Autobiography by Johnny Cash, Birdcage Walk by Helen Dunmore, Peril at End House by Agatha Christie, The Black Tower by PD James, Third Girl by Agatha Christie
February: biography of Mary Wesley by Patrick Marnham, Bigger than Hitler Better than Christ by Rik Mayall, Night Watch by Terry Pratchett, An Unsuitable Match by Joanna Trollop, Unpleasantness at the Bellona by Dorothy Sayers, Lord Peter Views the Body by DS
March: Not That Sort of Girl by Mary Wesley, Rise and Fall of the Dinosaurs by Steve Brusatte, Slaughterhouse 5 by Kurt Vonnegut, Coal Black Mornings by Brett Anderson, Diary of a Nobody by the Grossmiths, Crap Lyrics by Johnny Sharp, The Belting Inheritance by Julian Symons, Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy by John le Carre, Patrick Leigh Fermor biography by Artemis Cooper
April: To Throw Away Unopened by Viv Albertine, All That Remains by Sue Black, Notes on a Nervous Planet by Matt Haig, The Big Sleep by Raymond Chandler, Almost Everything by Annie Lamott, Men Explain Things to Me by Rebecca Solnit
May: Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency by Douglas Adams, The Private Patient by PD James, Have Mercy on us All by Fred Vargas, Wash this Blood Clean from my Hands by FV, Dead Water by Ngaio Marsh, An Uncertain Place by FV, Ghost Riders of the Orderbec by FV
June: Good Omens by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman, Aunt Margaret's Lover by Mavis Cheek, No Fond Return of Love by Barbara Pym, Playback by Raymond Chandler, The Eye in the Door by Pat Barker, Gilead by Marilynn Robinson, Room with a View by EM Forster
July: Case Histories by Kate Atkinson, Mrs Hemingway by Naomi Wood, To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee, Nicotine by Nell Zink
August: Grow Your Own Vegetables by Joy Larkham, Goodbye to all That by Robert Graves, When all is Said by Anne Griffin, Men at Arms by Terry Pratchett, The Fifth Elephant by TP, 100 Graves to Visit Before you Die by Anne Treveman
September: The Seven Deaths of Evelyn Hardcastle by Stuart Turton, Cargo of Eagles by Margery Allingham, How Not to be a Boy by Robert Webb, Regeneration by Pat Barker, Wise Children by Angela Carter, This Poison will Remain by Fred Vargas, Proof by Dick Francis
October: Diary of a Bookseller by Shaun Blythell, Wild Strawberries by Angela Thirkell, Bearmouth by Liz Hyder, Misogynies by Joan Smith, Death is now my Neighbour by Colin Dexter, Death at the Chase by Michael Innes, the Rising Tide by Molly Keane, the Jewel that was Ours by Colin Dexter, Educated by Tara Westover, Call for the Dead by John le Carre
November: Lords and Ladies by Terry Pratchett, Best Man to Die, the Veiled One and Unkindness of Ravens by Ruth Rendell, One Upon a River by Diane Setterfield, My Sister the Serial Killer by Oyinka Braithwaite, That's me in the Corner by Andrew Collins, I Am I Am I Am by Maggie O'Farrell, the Child that Books Built by Francis Spufford, Between Friends by Kathleen Rowntree
December: the Thirteenth Tale by Diane Setterfield, Ghostland by Edward Parnell, the Ghost Child by Eowyn Ivey, the Crow Trap by Anne Cleeves, Some Tame Gazelle by Barbara Pym, Character Breakdown by Zawe Ashton, the Christmas Egg by Mary Kelly, Peaky Blinders: the real story by Carl Chinn, Love of Country by Madeline Bunting
My favourites are marked with links to reviews (I always make an additional list of favourites too; my god, I am a super nerd). Some are rereads, more are new reads. If I was a proper book blogger, I'd do reviews of them but then I'd have no time for reading, so no. The only one I'm tempted to review is Bearmouth by my friend, Liz Hyder, because it's such a breathtaking, tour de force that I think all young adults (and old ones) should read it. It's extraordinary, with a unique, captivating voice, and a plot that sends shivers down your spine. Her research is played lightly, no heavy handed moralising here, just a story that carries you down into the earth and then back up into the light. Read it, goddamit.
Rereading Lords and Ladies made me very because there will never be any more Nanny Ogg or Magrat Garlick and that makes me sadder than anything. I miss Terry Pratchett.
Seven Deaths of Evelyn Hardcastle made me impatient and, at the end, bloody furious. What kind of an ending was that? Where was his editor? Creative writing courses have a lot to answer for. At least it didn't make me the same level of furious as Gone Girl did - I actually wrote "RUBBISH" in the margin of the diary next to that one.
Judging by the level of crime reading in May, I was stressed out. Given that was a month before we moved house, it's not surprising. I always turn to fictional crime when real life gets stressy. At least I chose three queens of crime fiction to soothe my brain with. If you've never read Vargas, put her on your list.
And this is why I keep the diary. Looking back at it sparks memories, joy and sadness, irritation or relief at finally getting through a big text that I wasn't really interested in (Cash and Fermor biographies, I'm looking at you). And, occasionally, surprise: I did not enjoy Notes on a Nervous Planet, I bloody loved Ghostland.
Character Breakdown is worth a special mention. Couldn't stop turning the pages on that one, jaw open in horror at what the acting profession demands of young women.
Whatever, you've found yourself reading this year, I hope the pages kept turning, new worlds emerged and real life was a little better at the end of it. I now have a pile of books to keep me out of mischief for a few weeks...maybe. Happy new year!
PS: this isn't about numbers or showing off but about the very deep joy books bring me. I felt this needed reiterating as Andy Miller gets a lot of stick for how much he reads. His blog post explains how and why he does, as well as wondering at the mindset of people who get angry over a picture of books on a table.
And right there and then, I saw my status as the Not-Nerdy one of the relationship disintegrate and a new level of Equal-Nerd was achieved. Which is all to the good, obviously. Yes, it is true, I keep a reading diary and have done for the past 5 years. It wasn't my original idea, but something I read (ironically, I forget where) someone else did to keep track of all the books she had read each year. "That's a good idea," I thought to myself as I realised I'd made it through 2013 and could only remember the handful of books that stuck in my head. "That will stop me standing at the library, book in hand, desperately trying to work out of I've already read it or not." Something that happened on a frequent basis.
So I started one in the January of 2014 and I haven't stopped yet. It reveals things about a person, this reading diary lark, but I'll let you decide what this year's reveals about me...
January: How to be Right by James O'Brien, Take Courage by Samantha Ellis, The Unfortunates by Laurie Graham, Altered States by Anita Brooker, Cash - the Autobiography by Johnny Cash, Birdcage Walk by Helen Dunmore, Peril at End House by Agatha Christie, The Black Tower by PD James, Third Girl by Agatha Christie
February: biography of Mary Wesley by Patrick Marnham, Bigger than Hitler Better than Christ by Rik Mayall, Night Watch by Terry Pratchett, An Unsuitable Match by Joanna Trollop, Unpleasantness at the Bellona by Dorothy Sayers, Lord Peter Views the Body by DS
March: Not That Sort of Girl by Mary Wesley, Rise and Fall of the Dinosaurs by Steve Brusatte, Slaughterhouse 5 by Kurt Vonnegut, Coal Black Mornings by Brett Anderson, Diary of a Nobody by the Grossmiths, Crap Lyrics by Johnny Sharp, The Belting Inheritance by Julian Symons, Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy by John le Carre, Patrick Leigh Fermor biography by Artemis Cooper
April: To Throw Away Unopened by Viv Albertine, All That Remains by Sue Black, Notes on a Nervous Planet by Matt Haig, The Big Sleep by Raymond Chandler, Almost Everything by Annie Lamott, Men Explain Things to Me by Rebecca Solnit
May: Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency by Douglas Adams, The Private Patient by PD James, Have Mercy on us All by Fred Vargas, Wash this Blood Clean from my Hands by FV, Dead Water by Ngaio Marsh, An Uncertain Place by FV, Ghost Riders of the Orderbec by FV
June: Good Omens by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman, Aunt Margaret's Lover by Mavis Cheek, No Fond Return of Love by Barbara Pym, Playback by Raymond Chandler, The Eye in the Door by Pat Barker, Gilead by Marilynn Robinson, Room with a View by EM Forster
July: Case Histories by Kate Atkinson, Mrs Hemingway by Naomi Wood, To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee, Nicotine by Nell Zink
August: Grow Your Own Vegetables by Joy Larkham, Goodbye to all That by Robert Graves, When all is Said by Anne Griffin, Men at Arms by Terry Pratchett, The Fifth Elephant by TP, 100 Graves to Visit Before you Die by Anne Treveman
September: The Seven Deaths of Evelyn Hardcastle by Stuart Turton, Cargo of Eagles by Margery Allingham, How Not to be a Boy by Robert Webb, Regeneration by Pat Barker, Wise Children by Angela Carter, This Poison will Remain by Fred Vargas, Proof by Dick Francis
October: Diary of a Bookseller by Shaun Blythell, Wild Strawberries by Angela Thirkell, Bearmouth by Liz Hyder, Misogynies by Joan Smith, Death is now my Neighbour by Colin Dexter, Death at the Chase by Michael Innes, the Rising Tide by Molly Keane, the Jewel that was Ours by Colin Dexter, Educated by Tara Westover, Call for the Dead by John le Carre
November: Lords and Ladies by Terry Pratchett, Best Man to Die, the Veiled One and Unkindness of Ravens by Ruth Rendell, One Upon a River by Diane Setterfield, My Sister the Serial Killer by Oyinka Braithwaite, That's me in the Corner by Andrew Collins, I Am I Am I Am by Maggie O'Farrell, the Child that Books Built by Francis Spufford, Between Friends by Kathleen Rowntree
December: the Thirteenth Tale by Diane Setterfield, Ghostland by Edward Parnell, the Ghost Child by Eowyn Ivey, the Crow Trap by Anne Cleeves, Some Tame Gazelle by Barbara Pym, Character Breakdown by Zawe Ashton, the Christmas Egg by Mary Kelly, Peaky Blinders: the real story by Carl Chinn, Love of Country by Madeline Bunting
My favourites are marked with links to reviews (I always make an additional list of favourites too; my god, I am a super nerd). Some are rereads, more are new reads. If I was a proper book blogger, I'd do reviews of them but then I'd have no time for reading, so no. The only one I'm tempted to review is Bearmouth by my friend, Liz Hyder, because it's such a breathtaking, tour de force that I think all young adults (and old ones) should read it. It's extraordinary, with a unique, captivating voice, and a plot that sends shivers down your spine. Her research is played lightly, no heavy handed moralising here, just a story that carries you down into the earth and then back up into the light. Read it, goddamit.
Rereading Lords and Ladies made me very because there will never be any more Nanny Ogg or Magrat Garlick and that makes me sadder than anything. I miss Terry Pratchett.
Seven Deaths of Evelyn Hardcastle made me impatient and, at the end, bloody furious. What kind of an ending was that? Where was his editor? Creative writing courses have a lot to answer for. At least it didn't make me the same level of furious as Gone Girl did - I actually wrote "RUBBISH" in the margin of the diary next to that one.
Judging by the level of crime reading in May, I was stressed out. Given that was a month before we moved house, it's not surprising. I always turn to fictional crime when real life gets stressy. At least I chose three queens of crime fiction to soothe my brain with. If you've never read Vargas, put her on your list.
And this is why I keep the diary. Looking back at it sparks memories, joy and sadness, irritation or relief at finally getting through a big text that I wasn't really interested in (Cash and Fermor biographies, I'm looking at you). And, occasionally, surprise: I did not enjoy Notes on a Nervous Planet, I bloody loved Ghostland.
Character Breakdown is worth a special mention. Couldn't stop turning the pages on that one, jaw open in horror at what the acting profession demands of young women.
Whatever, you've found yourself reading this year, I hope the pages kept turning, new worlds emerged and real life was a little better at the end of it. I now have a pile of books to keep me out of mischief for a few weeks...maybe. Happy new year!
PS: this isn't about numbers or showing off but about the very deep joy books bring me. I felt this needed reiterating as Andy Miller gets a lot of stick for how much he reads. His blog post explains how and why he does, as well as wondering at the mindset of people who get angry over a picture of books on a table.
Friday, December 20, 2019
T'was the week before Christmas...
And all the creatures were stirring. Especially in the city. Popped into Marks and Spencers the other day to get myself a sandwich and was confronted by a sea of people panic-buying musical tins of biscuits, umpteen packets of festive Percy Pigs* and enough ham to sink battleships. No one apparently considering whether beleaguered relatives (also out panic buying novelty socks, festive jumpers and crackers filled with tiny screwdriver sets, blunt metal nail files and corkscrews apparently designed for mice) actually want the musical tins of biscuits. What will happen to them all after the contents have been eaten? Doesn't bear thinking about but I do wonder what archaeologists of the future will make of it all.

Our social calendar has been full to bursting recently with friend's parties, work parties, random gatherings and family birthdays. So much so it was a relief when one was cancelled last Sunday. Whilst sending my commiserations over their illness, it was all I could do not to whoop with joy. My Sunday was freed up for the first time in weeks! What to do, what to do?
Obviously, to do was to head to the allotment. Also for the first time in weeks thanks to rain/illness
/busyness.
Getting there I felt I should have been depressed at the sight of the site. Everything I've planted this year has rotted away; beaten down by the rain before they had chance to get past the seedling stage, or even sprout a shoot or two. Luckily, from the moment I got the site, I'd decided to treat it as an experiment and not get downhearted over failures. If you're coming from a position of knowing nothing and achieving nothing, it's easier to rise up from it.
And besides, this time of year exposes the colourful bones of the place, which is rather wonderful even without things growing as they should.
We didn't spend long there. Enough to hack back the brambles, finally stripped of fruit and leaves (see clump of wildness above), and dig over another of the beds so the frost and cold can do the work of breaking it down. I will admit that it was kind of disheartening to stand on the ground and hear the leaden squelch of mud underfoot. It's been so wet! Turning over the soil was like lifting a mini boulder with each forkful. I tell myself that means I'll soon have sculpted arms. Apparently this is A Thing all women should want. I merely want functional ones.
Work is nearly done for the year - just one more day to go. Looking forward to the return in January as our new office will be completed and we'll be moving in. Today I spent a couple of hours painting the newly plastered walls. I paint fast but not well and with so much splash back, the only way I'd have been more covered in paint would be if I'd tipped the pot over me. Colleagues have had a good laugh at my expense.
This year's gifts are a mix of brought and handmade, the latter involving pomegranate gin, my own boozy mincemeat and little chocolate & peanut butter cookies. Labels have been made for all of them, my personal favourite being for the gin.
There were also hats for nieces and sisters (including the in law ones) but Thorcat has an obsession with wool - and I mean stare-at-me-while-I-knit-in-most-unnerving-and-unblinking-fashion obsession - and he managed to hook them out of their hiding place while I was at work, leaving himself free to slowly pick them apart with his claws. So there are no hats and I am most unimpressed. Also, slightly worried as he stares at me the same way when I twist my hair round my fingers. Am convinced I'm going to wake up one morning to find my scalp on the bedroom floor. We have adopted a psychopath.
Tomorrow night, we have our annual festive scrabble night, which is exactly like our normal scrabble night but with added mince pies, then my parents are over on Sunday to celebrate my Mum's birthday, even though she doesn't really celebrate it because it's so close to Christmas and we've already had 5 family birthdays in the last month, and our final bit of socialising is a night of Sharpe at a friends. Both she and the Boyfriend are shocked that I've never seen Sharpe (what's the point of something with Sean Bean in it if he doesn't die heroically?), so I'm being forced into it. Chilli has been promised to make me stay.
There may well be a book post (I used to do these with my old blogs and I enjoyed them) before the end of the year but in the meantime, may your next week be festive in whichever way you prefer it to be.
Merry Christmas!
*okay, that was just me

Our social calendar has been full to bursting recently with friend's parties, work parties, random gatherings and family birthdays. So much so it was a relief when one was cancelled last Sunday. Whilst sending my commiserations over their illness, it was all I could do not to whoop with joy. My Sunday was freed up for the first time in weeks! What to do, what to do?
Obviously, to do was to head to the allotment. Also for the first time in weeks thanks to rain/illness
/busyness.
Getting there I felt I should have been depressed at the sight of the site. Everything I've planted this year has rotted away; beaten down by the rain before they had chance to get past the seedling stage, or even sprout a shoot or two. Luckily, from the moment I got the site, I'd decided to treat it as an experiment and not get downhearted over failures. If you're coming from a position of knowing nothing and achieving nothing, it's easier to rise up from it.
And besides, this time of year exposes the colourful bones of the place, which is rather wonderful even without things growing as they should.
We didn't spend long there. Enough to hack back the brambles, finally stripped of fruit and leaves (see clump of wildness above), and dig over another of the beds so the frost and cold can do the work of breaking it down. I will admit that it was kind of disheartening to stand on the ground and hear the leaden squelch of mud underfoot. It's been so wet! Turning over the soil was like lifting a mini boulder with each forkful. I tell myself that means I'll soon have sculpted arms. Apparently this is A Thing all women should want. I merely want functional ones. Work is nearly done for the year - just one more day to go. Looking forward to the return in January as our new office will be completed and we'll be moving in. Today I spent a couple of hours painting the newly plastered walls. I paint fast but not well and with so much splash back, the only way I'd have been more covered in paint would be if I'd tipped the pot over me. Colleagues have had a good laugh at my expense.
This year's gifts are a mix of brought and handmade, the latter involving pomegranate gin, my own boozy mincemeat and little chocolate & peanut butter cookies. Labels have been made for all of them, my personal favourite being for the gin.
There were also hats for nieces and sisters (including the in law ones) but Thorcat has an obsession with wool - and I mean stare-at-me-while-I-knit-in-most-unnerving-and-unblinking-fashion obsession - and he managed to hook them out of their hiding place while I was at work, leaving himself free to slowly pick them apart with his claws. So there are no hats and I am most unimpressed. Also, slightly worried as he stares at me the same way when I twist my hair round my fingers. Am convinced I'm going to wake up one morning to find my scalp on the bedroom floor. We have adopted a psychopath.Tomorrow night, we have our annual festive scrabble night, which is exactly like our normal scrabble night but with added mince pies, then my parents are over on Sunday to celebrate my Mum's birthday, even though she doesn't really celebrate it because it's so close to Christmas and we've already had 5 family birthdays in the last month, and our final bit of socialising is a night of Sharpe at a friends. Both she and the Boyfriend are shocked that I've never seen Sharpe (what's the point of something with Sean Bean in it if he doesn't die heroically?), so I'm being forced into it. Chilli has been promised to make me stay.
There may well be a book post (I used to do these with my old blogs and I enjoyed them) before the end of the year but in the meantime, may your next week be festive in whichever way you prefer it to be.
Merry Christmas!
*okay, that was just me
Friday, December 13, 2019
Right then
Here is a small piece of good news for today because, just, fucking hell.
https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2019/dec/13/harvest-mice-found-thriving-15-years-after-reintroduction-efforts
In other news, I considering starting a Kickstarter to fund my fledgling sheep farm in rural Scotland/Norway but for now, I'm going to go pet my cats and hug my boyfriend tight. I know all things pass but right now, just, fucking hell...
https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2019/dec/13/harvest-mice-found-thriving-15-years-after-reintroduction-efforts
In other news, I considering starting a Kickstarter to fund my fledgling sheep farm in rural Scotland/Norway but for now, I'm going to go pet my cats and hug my boyfriend tight. I know all things pass but right now, just, fucking hell...
Thursday, December 12, 2019
Notes from the Peculiarosity
It's been a chaotic few weeks here at the Peculiarosity. Hospital stays, ill health, trips away, family and friends, weekends full to bursting and so on. Time for blogging has been limited and then limited further by my own health issues, which have a habit of draining the life and colour from everything. But I am feeling better (finally speaking to a doctor who said quite frankly "you must be really pissed off" - YES I AM - helped enormously) and this coincided with the swimming pool I go to on the way to work reopening. Oh bliss. That half an hour swimming in warm water, watching the reflection of the water on the ceiling, no phone for anyone to reach me on...it's one of the most lovely parts of my day.
And now, Christmas! I love this. Not for the presents (although I can't deny those help) but for the lights, the greenery brought inside, the food and the catching up with family and friends. I like receiving cards. I like the darkening mornings and afternoons. I even like the sound of the rain drumming against the windows...providing it's on a Sunday and I don't have to get up from under my nice warm duvet.
This year, for the first time in 6 years, I even have a real tree, which we soaked in water for 2 hours before bringing it in, in the hope that'll help it retain the needles. The Christmas Diplodocus (how do you say it? Di-PLOD-ocus or Dip-loh-docus? I prefer the former) is at the top and the Christmas Stegasaurus is in the middle. I have a thing about dinosaurs.
And now for 3 things that are rather marvellous:
The question of presents has arisen and I may have become a little overexcited when I idly googled "Nightmare Before Christmas" and "Christmas sweaters" and a whole new world of kitschy items featuring my favourite skeleton* appeared on my screen...The boyfriend has been gently steered in the direction of a hoody that I now know I really need for Christmas.
This great little article on the winter blues and how to deal with them. "I stopped complaining about it getting cold and dark, I stopped dreading the arrival of snow." It's not telling you anything you don't already know, but sometimes you have to see it to know it.
The Bonington Art Gallery in Nottingham have a great exhibition programme. I'm hoping to get to see this while I'm off work in December.
Hoping to get back into the swing of blogging again, now mojo for all sorts of activities has returned. Just don't ask me about the allotment...
*Surely everyone has a favourite skeleton?
Saturday, October 26, 2019
As the Day Flies
Whitby Abbey - strong Goth game that day
Mind you, Monopoly will do that to a person.
All the stone colours and a suspicious gathering of The Birds
In past years, the Dog and I would be walking autumn every day, early in the morning when crows were still sleepy with their caws, the mist hung around the ground like an embarrassed teenager and the dew soaked our feet. Since he died and I couldn't face the pain of replacing him, it has required thought and planning to take myself out. This year, I have the allotment to force me.
My quest for weird graves and memorials
continues - this couple had 12 - TWELVE -
children and died on the same day as each other.
Anyway, a return visit today showed that the slugs hadn't eaten every single leaf, so I've left them, more in hope than experience, to fend for themselves and instead busied myself weeding, planting out onion bulbs and looking around.
The giant elder that borders our plot and the one next door has shed its leaves, revealing a silvery, crumply trunk and the faintest hints (if you squint) of mistletoe on the top branches. The brambles have also shed their leaves, although a few blackberries cling on - not even the mice want them at this time of year. The trees and undergrowth that line the canalside of the allotment are still in dense with foliage: it will be interesting to see what winter reveals when it really bites and we finally get to see the bones of the site.
The squash and the sweet potatoes have lost the will to live and mouldered away. Only the chard seems to be thriving. Thank god for the chard. Our neighbours on the left and left again have been served "non-cultivation" notices on their plots and, if it weren't for that, I suspect we would have been too.

Although 3 beds have now been uncovered and worked over, it's slow business taking over a site that had been effectively abandoned for 2 years: the sheer amount of work in clearing a space to grow anything in is overwhelming at times, not to mention our own ignorance of how to work it. But I paid close attention to advice received at the beginning of our tenancy: work a small bit at a time, don't try to do it all at one. Our left-hand neighbour didn't, rotavated the entire plot at the beginning of summer and then hasn't been near it since, except to stare in horror at the weeds that had multiplied in his month's absence.
On the left of him, they'd spent an industrious weekend clearing and burning scrub before disappearing off to Glastonbury for the weekend, returning to much the same scene of weed-takeover and despair. Allotments are hard work and it's easy to feel overwhelmed when you try to tackle the whole plot at once. So I don't: little and as often as I can fit in. Hopefully I'll be up there again before my op on Monday afternoon.
But it was good to be up there today: the air smelt of earth, rotting leaves and woodsmoke, the sounds of the city move further away and you become aware of a settling of the soul. The ache in your arms from hoeing is more real than any looming work problem and perspective on life is gained. If only vegetables were as well. But the chard is good, especially when cooked like this:
- Shred finely and stir fry till beginning to crisp in sesame oil
- Add sesame seeds, a little garlic/ginger/chilli/whatever you fancy
- Squeeze in some lime juice and a small drop of fish sauce
- Add cooked egg noodles and continue to stir fry until chard is crisp and your mouth is watering
- Serve with soy or chilli sauce, coriander and, if feeling particularly greedy/in need of a cultural mash-up, some toasted sourdough.
Gruff Rhys and Boy Azooga making our Saturday worth a train trip for: there was applause.
There was dancing. There were monumental hangovers the next day...
There have been catchings-up with friends, some of whom are moving on to career pastures new; gigs in areas of Birmingham I've never explored before, nights of scrabble, games of pool and family gatherings. My walks to work along the canal have taken a misty-foggy turn where the leaves hang damp and sullen, and the sky is low around the ears.
There has also been the arrival of 2 cats into our lives, Thor and Loki, from the local rescue centre. They are big beautiful boys and, after 4 weeks, have the Boyfriend wrapped around their (rather large - Loki's in particular) paws. It's rather endearing. This is the place to come if you ever want to see a grown man spend an inordinate amount of money on a "cat tower with crawl spaces and specially designed scratching posts". Which they are absolutely going to ignore in favour of the sofa/antique trunk/carpet. Because, cats.
Wednesday, September 18, 2019
Highgating it outta there
For some reason, it was decided that the hottest day of August would be a perfect day to spend wandering around Highgate.
Actually, I know the reason why: we'd arrived in London the day before for a 40th birthday party and, as we were in the North London area, the Boyfriend was extremely thoughtful (despite the kind of hangover that makes you want to pull your own brains out and replace them with a cold cloth) and tagged on to the Sunday a trip to Highgate so I could fulfill a dream of many years standing.
The weather was not so thoughtful. There were no cool breezes, there was no smidgeon of rain to alleviate the suffocating heat. There was a veritable rush for the crypt in the cemetary just because it was several degrees cooler in the dark than it was outside. Frankly, I think we'd have rushed in if there had been zombie hordes awaiting us inside: fine, eat my brains, just let me lie down in the cool while you do it.
Actually I would not as zombies are my one irrational phobia. Although, having read Zora Neale Hurston's account of meeting an actual real zombie in Haiti (Tell My Horse), I'm not sure it is an irrational phobia.
But I can feel the question hovering behind the eyes of anyone reading this...why spend a gorgeous summer day in a cemetary?
I wish I knew the answer to that.
I suppose it's the mix of architecture, peace, surprising flashes of nature and social commentary that I love and that make graveyards, especially the big old Victorian ones, so appealing to me. Or it could be that, from a small age, a regular occupation when staying with my Nan was to go visit the small village cemetary where she would lay flowers for her father in law and own mother, reserving a little bit of spite for Doris, her unforgiving (her son married beneath himself when he took up with the baker's daughter) mother in law. Truly all life is contained in these places.
My sister and I "adopted" a small and neglected grave of a young girl, Rebecca, almost hidden in the corner by hedges. We pulled out the weeds, begged flowers from my Nan for the rusty pot and generally chattered about childish things to the tiny headstone. You could say that we were always morbid wee things, although my sister seems to have grown out of it these days.
Anyway, enough memory lane. To the present day and Highgate. Gosh that place is beautiful. We paid our respects to Douglas Adams (it would have been rude not to leave a pen) and Karl Marx before heading to the west side and the guided tour.
A confession: I am not much of a fan of the guided tour. There, I've said it out loud. That's despite having worked for a museum where the only way you could access the building was by guided tour (it was the exception to my own rule). I find that you have to stand for too long in one spot, that you don't get to see the bits that are most fascinating, that the chance to just sit, soak up the atmosphere and stare around you is missing.
However, wandering on your own is distinctly not allowed in Highgate. According to a friend of mine who's PHD means she spends a lot of time wandering around cemeteries, and who has been allowed unescorted access to Highgate, there are quite a few holes in the ground, falling tree branches and other dangers which mean 1000s of people doing it is a health and safety red tape nightmare to be avoided. Much like the holes in the ground. So I can understand it, but knowing there are vast spaces I didn't see fires my curiosity. And I wish I'd been able to pay my respects to Lizzie Siddal.
And now, nearly a month on (another confession: I started this post a week after coming back but life has a way of getting in the way of my plans just recently), I imagine that the heat has dissipated and those huge trees, creators of so much of the H&S nightmare, will be starting to change colour. I'm trying to come up with a plausible reason for visiting North London again... I'd like to go back, do another tour, see more of the east side, not be viewing it all from the wrong side of a night out.
But is is my favourite cemetery? No, that space is reserved for Key Hill in Birmingham, an oddly isolated place where it suddenly grew silent around me (and a former colleague found evidence of a voodoo ceremony), and Haworth, not isolated at all, thanks to it's central location and the hordes of Bronte worshippers. But there is something quite special about Highgate nonetheless. I can understand why so many people have written about the place. Next on the bucket list of graveyards - the Pere Lachaise and Arnos Vale. Just not at the same time.
Actually, I know the reason why: we'd arrived in London the day before for a 40th birthday party and, as we were in the North London area, the Boyfriend was extremely thoughtful (despite the kind of hangover that makes you want to pull your own brains out and replace them with a cold cloth) and tagged on to the Sunday a trip to Highgate so I could fulfill a dream of many years standing.
The weather was not so thoughtful. There were no cool breezes, there was no smidgeon of rain to alleviate the suffocating heat. There was a veritable rush for the crypt in the cemetary just because it was several degrees cooler in the dark than it was outside. Frankly, I think we'd have rushed in if there had been zombie hordes awaiting us inside: fine, eat my brains, just let me lie down in the cool while you do it.
Actually I would not as zombies are my one irrational phobia. Although, having read Zora Neale Hurston's account of meeting an actual real zombie in Haiti (Tell My Horse), I'm not sure it is an irrational phobia.
But I can feel the question hovering behind the eyes of anyone reading this...why spend a gorgeous summer day in a cemetary?
I wish I knew the answer to that.
I suppose it's the mix of architecture, peace, surprising flashes of nature and social commentary that I love and that make graveyards, especially the big old Victorian ones, so appealing to me. Or it could be that, from a small age, a regular occupation when staying with my Nan was to go visit the small village cemetary where she would lay flowers for her father in law and own mother, reserving a little bit of spite for Doris, her unforgiving (her son married beneath himself when he took up with the baker's daughter) mother in law. Truly all life is contained in these places.
My sister and I "adopted" a small and neglected grave of a young girl, Rebecca, almost hidden in the corner by hedges. We pulled out the weeds, begged flowers from my Nan for the rusty pot and generally chattered about childish things to the tiny headstone. You could say that we were always morbid wee things, although my sister seems to have grown out of it these days.
Anyway, enough memory lane. To the present day and Highgate. Gosh that place is beautiful. We paid our respects to Douglas Adams (it would have been rude not to leave a pen) and Karl Marx before heading to the west side and the guided tour.
A confession: I am not much of a fan of the guided tour. There, I've said it out loud. That's despite having worked for a museum where the only way you could access the building was by guided tour (it was the exception to my own rule). I find that you have to stand for too long in one spot, that you don't get to see the bits that are most fascinating, that the chance to just sit, soak up the atmosphere and stare around you is missing.
However, wandering on your own is distinctly not allowed in Highgate. According to a friend of mine who's PHD means she spends a lot of time wandering around cemeteries, and who has been allowed unescorted access to Highgate, there are quite a few holes in the ground, falling tree branches and other dangers which mean 1000s of people doing it is a health and safety red tape nightmare to be avoided. Much like the holes in the ground. So I can understand it, but knowing there are vast spaces I didn't see fires my curiosity. And I wish I'd been able to pay my respects to Lizzie Siddal.
And now, nearly a month on (another confession: I started this post a week after coming back but life has a way of getting in the way of my plans just recently), I imagine that the heat has dissipated and those huge trees, creators of so much of the H&S nightmare, will be starting to change colour. I'm trying to come up with a plausible reason for visiting North London again... I'd like to go back, do another tour, see more of the east side, not be viewing it all from the wrong side of a night out.
But is is my favourite cemetery? No, that space is reserved for Key Hill in Birmingham, an oddly isolated place where it suddenly grew silent around me (and a former colleague found evidence of a voodoo ceremony), and Haworth, not isolated at all, thanks to it's central location and the hordes of Bronte worshippers. But there is something quite special about Highgate nonetheless. I can understand why so many people have written about the place. Next on the bucket list of graveyards - the Pere Lachaise and Arnos Vale. Just not at the same time.
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